The word why, set against a green leafy bush.

The why

Heres what you need to know. I’m female, early 40’s right now, a mother to one, a wife, a lover and a sinner. I’m average height, curvy, big boobed and I don’t go to church.

Why am I writing a blog about sex and relationships? Well, I think I have an interesting story to tell.

I’m here to tell you that I’ve fixed my dead bedroom, and I’m going to tell you how I’ve done it.

I’ve changed every single part of my life in the last 5 years.

I have sex several times a week. I also like to have solo fun and masturbate out in the open when I get horny. I like being spanked. Sometimes, if the mood is right, I like to call you daddy (not so much if you’re a girl :), and I like things in my butt. Oh, and I’ve been married forever.

If you’re in a place where your bedroom is dead, you don’t connect with your person, and your emotional needs aren’t being met, some of the articles on my blog may be of interest to you. This blog is simply my story. This blog is my way of sharing how I’ve transformed my outlook on sex, relationships and sexy toys, and how I’ve reconnected with my husband, and a few other people.

Please know this. The topics you’re going to read about here, are going to be rude and unconventional. I expect and hope that these articles to make you thinky, and challenge the way you have thought about many aspects of monogamy, relationships and sex.

This blog is a place for those who want to change and work on their relationships because they’ve realised they need to.

This may not be the right place for you if you think you are always right and you think all the frustrations your dealing with, are caused by your significant person. I mean, sure, it takes two to tango, but to improve and change your situation, you have to be open to change, and challenge the way you’re thinking.

I do consider myself to be very fortunate, as my husband is a brilliant person, I like him, and I love him, and I have always had a huge respect for him. We have a good foundation and we got married for good reasons. I do know that our relationship was never completely broken, but we were lost for quite a long time. We each had a part to play in improving our relationship, and we continue to work on things daily.

Let’s start your learning with this.

If I could give you one piece of advice before you dive into my rabbit hole of sex and smut, it would be to tell you this. You should assume that you’re the problem, not your partner.

Improvement will happen, when you’re happy. You can’t expect them to change to make you happy. Fix yourself first.

Lastly, I’m English, and I live in London. I like to use lots of cutesy language, like the word “natter” for example. I do not have a degree and I probably can’t write for toffee. This isn’t place that you’ll find written perfection or neat paragraphs.

This is a place for reflection, introspection and fun. It’s my place to pour out my experiences and thoughts and learnings.

I’m not an expert in anything. I can only tell you what I’ve learnt myself and how I’ve applied that to my life.

If you have any ideas for interesting topics and articles relevant to my blog content, or any constructive observations on any of my articles, I’d love to hear from you.

Much love,

Talia.